Monday, September 14, 2009

There's Always Another Answer

I got an email from C the other morning asking if she could give my contact info to her cousin A because she thinks she's going to be needing some real estate advice soon.

The email said that A's husband committed suicide two days earlier. They had relocated to another state a few years ago and from all outward appearances were happy and doing well. They had sold a house in their hometown before moving and taken the money there and invested in another home and some other real estate ventures. When the economy and real estate values tanked, they found themselves in serious financial straits.

The other night after dinner, A's husband took his gun, went into another part of the house and shot himself. She was in the house and when she heard the shot ran to his side but there was nothing she could do.

My heart breaks for her. And for his elderly mother, and for his children. Such a selfish thing to do. Now A is left with the aftermath of dealing with his death under these most horrible circumstances and facing the consequences of their financial troubles.

She will probably be coming back to the town they left. I'm sure had he made a different choice, they could have worked things out even if it meant starting over. She certainly will have to do that now. Alone.

What a selfish, cowardly thing to do. There's always another answer.

14 comments:

Michele said...

That poor family. You're right, there is always another answer.

Vodka Logic said...

I agree, he couldn't deal with the failure the stress whatever, and just created a huger problem for his wife. Some one he supposedly loved. Of course I don't know the man or his truths but it can't be better to be dead.
Prayers for her and the family

Badass Geek said...

That is so hard. I've known a couple of families that have had to deal with the aftermath of a suicide, and it really is horrible.

I'm sorry.

kaye said...

how sad :(

Just Breathe said...

That is so sad. Yes, it was a selfish act. The poor family.
I will keep them in my prayers.

Notes From the Grove said...

That's the thing about suicide that I just don't get: it is the most SELFISH thing a person can do. I feel so bad for everyone involved, but also anger at that man for leaving his family behind to deal with the mess.

Sigh. My thoughts are with them all.

honeywine said...

Can't see the woods for the trees. They get so bogged down and don't see a way out. It's gut wrenching.

dadshouse said...

That's very sad.

BONNIE K said...

This is so hard on the survivors, who will probably spend the rest of their lives wondering if they could have done something. But it's sad for him too, because he apparently could find no other way out of his grief.

Pam said...

How horrible for his wife to find him right after his suicide. I imagine she will never be able to forget those images of her husband's final moments. My heart goes out to her and his family. How very sad.

Anita said...

That is so sad.
I'll be honest, I know you and others said this was such a selfish act, but I do believe that mental illness plays a part in all suicides, and I just feel so sad for the person that this kind of comment never crosses my mind. It's easy to be angry at the person that did this, but unless you were in a person's head you have no idea how they felt. Just some food for thought.

Tammy Howard said...

A permanent solution to a temporary problem. I ache for his family.

Find something nice for A...

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Le Gourou said...

Hi there Sandy. I've fallen in love with your blog. What a nice place to visit. Thanks for supporting your local food charity, and for dropping in on samwich365.com and leaving a comment. Send your friends over for a virtual sandwich. Thanks, Keri

AKA Le Gourou

www.spitnglue.com
www.samwich365.com

 

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